What’s That Ridge on My Scrotum? How a Line Can Define Your Gender and Sexuality

As a woman, I’m naturally very appreciative, as well as curious, about the male anatomical design and I’ve always been fascinated by the slightly raised line that seems to be the join of the scrotum.

Known as the perineal raphe, it extends from the anus, through the mid-line of the scrotum (where it becomes the scrotal raphe) and upwards through the posterior mid-line aspect of the penis (to form the penile raphe).

This noticeable line is due to a phenomenon of foetal development where the scrotum (the equivalent of the labia in females) and penis close toward the midline and fuse, causing a ridge of tissue.

This ridge of tissue is formed when the genetic coding decides that the foetus is going to be a boy. If things had gone the other way, then the tissue would have become the lips of the female labia and the tip of the penis would have been her clitoris.

If you look at the upward V formed by the vagina, uterus and fallopian tubes and then correspond them to the upside down V of the penis and testicles you can see how it all works.

In cases where the genetic signals become confused, you get babies that have genitals which are neither one thing nor the other and none of it works properly.

Thinking about it in this way, the whole miracle of the formation and gestation of a foetus is quite extraordinary.

But, as a friend who has studied this genetic question explained to me, it goes much deeper than this.

There are homophobic arguments about people being “unnaturally” or “pervertedly” gay, or suffering what’s known as ‘body dysmorphia’ – where they have all the characteristics of one gender, but are mentally the other. People also think of Hermaphrodites (from a fusion of Hermes and Aphrodite) as being genetic mutations outside the norm.

The point is that we are all hermaphrodite until a certain point in our development, when the X or Y chromosomes should fulfill their potential towards one gender specific development.

Sometimes, for some reason, either the body develops one way and the mind the other (Body Dysmorphia) or the genes get confused or crossed allowing both sets of genitalia to begin to develop (Hermaphrodite), or everything seems to be OK in the complete gender specific arena, but the sexual interest is towards one’s own gender, which could possibly be viewed as very mild body dysmorphia.

The evidence for the completely natural, though incorrectly developed issues above are obvious in the evidential similarities, shown not least in the perineal raphe, but also the similarity between the internal and external genitalia as below:

The G-spot in the female and prostate in the male giving deeper and more convulsive pelvic floor orgasms.

The fact that men still have ‘totally useless’ nipples for no apparent reason.

The fact that, given heavy doses of steroids which directly trigger hormonal responses, transgender mutations can still be engineered in a person’s hirsuteness, voice tone, and both organ and bone shape.

The type of superficial intensity of the clitoral/glans-penile orgasm.

The appearance of the clitoris (which tumesces – ie: swells under stimulation, out from under a hood) and the penis with its foreskin.

The similarity between the testes, vas diferens (tubes) and the ovaries and fallopian tubes.

In short, we are all more alike than we think, and only genetic irregularity makes any of us stray from the male/female norm…and being gay, or a man/woman trapped in the other gender’s body is not a perverted choice. It’s just the unfortunate way it is for that being who developed in that way, and has to live in an ignorant society.

How To Choose Your Baby’s Gender, Boy Or Girl

Most parents would want to know how to choose your baby’s gender for many valid reasons. It may be that the family already has two boys, so a baby girl will be a welcome addition; or it may be that the clan has one too many girls so baby boys are hoped for. This is not to say that parents will not welcome a healthy baby regardless of the external reproductive organ it was born with, but given the choice mom and dad would love to have a say.

Such a possibility is in the realm of science fiction where many would-be parents are concerned. Even if modern science has a way of ensuring the baby’s eventual sex, you probably will not want to dabble in it for ethical and financial considerations. And so you despair of ever having to actually choose your baby’s gender, for whatever reason you may have for wishing it.

But wait! You don’t have to continue your feelings of desperation since there are natural ways to ensure that you get what you wish for – either a baby boy or a baby girl for your next pregnancy. No science fiction, no surgical operations and no ethical issues involved in these all-natural methods, thank you very much.

First, you must know the ovulation cycle and its importance in determining the sex of your baby. Your doctor will tell you about the best time to engage in sexual intercourse so that you can become pregnant but you have no assurance whatsoever about the eventual sex of the baby.

You can help to choose your baby’s gender by knowing the exact time for ovulation, as well as your body’s pH level, to conceive the gender you want. The general rule is that alkaline pH level will more likely result in a baby boy, while an acidic pH level is more likely to result in baby girl. You must take note of things like basal body temperature, cervical mucus and other aspects of a woman’s reproductive system.

Second, you should start adapting your diet to suit the purpose of making the ideal environment for the right chromosomes to flourish. The kinds of food that will be added or removed from your present diet achieve two goals in your decision to choose the baby’s sex:

a. Prepare your body to nourish the baby that will soon come along. Keep in mind that the baby’s welfare will be entirely dependent on your good health regardless of its sex.

b. Stimulate the body’s ability to sustain the right environment for the right combination of chromosomes to prevail.

Third, you should be willing to try new sexual positions. It may sound ridiculous but this is a proven fact that the way to ensure a baby’s sex is to adopt certain positions according to your wishes. There’s no need to worry since these sexual positions are easy to adopt and pleasurable to do.

There is a lot to learn about how to choose your baby’s gender, and you must make sure that you get the correct information to get the result that you want. In the end, the more important part is to be able to have a healthy baby but if you can choose the baby’s sex, it’s definitely a bonus.

Couples and Sexuality: What is Sex Therapy and Who Needs It?

One of the most common questions I am asked by people in any situation who know that I am a sex therapist is “What is sex therapy?” I hope to help you understand what sex therapy is, and what it is not. I hope to help define what is myth and what is fact. Clinical sexology, or the scientific study of human sexuality is over a hundred years old. Some of the most famous sexologists have been Alfred Kinsey, Helen Singer Kaplan, and Dr. Ruth Westheimer. They have been providing sexuality study, education, and sex therapy treatment since the 1940s.

What is sex therapy?

oSex therapy is a treatment method which involves helping people who are having difficulty with sexual functioning

oSex therapy is an internationally recognized profession known for its successful treatment of sexual disorders

oThe goals are to relieve sexual symptoms causing a person or couple distress, and to improve overall sexual communication, satisfaction and functioning for those who seek it

oThe sex therapist combines psychotherapy with a combination of prescribed sexual experiences assigned as homework in order to alleviate sexual problems

oSex therapists are recognized as professionals in the State of Florida. They must be licensed as a psychotherapist and obtain specialty training and supervision

What is NOT sex therapy?

oSex therapy is not imposed, but chosen by those in distress

oSex therapy does not involve any sexual activity between clients and therapists

oSex therapy does not encourage illegal behavior

oSex therapy is not in any way inappropriate, but is respectful and nonjudgmental

How common are sexual problems, and why do they exist?
According to the National Health and Life Survey (1999), over forty percent of women and over thirty percent of men in the U.S. who responded reported some difficulties with sexual function. Sexual problems can be related to physical, psychological, or relational factors, such as chronic pain, medical conditions, medication side effects, a history sexual abuse, a sense of shame related to social/familial taboos, or sexual dysfunction of a life partner. Some people experience difficulty due to a lack of information about sexuality, or the inability to know what their wants and needs are and how to communicate those. There are several types of sexual disorders which I will mention here:

What are some examples of sexual disorders?

o Low sexual desire

o Erectile Dysfunction

o Premature Ejaculation

o Inability to experience orgasm

o Gender Identity Disorder

o Distress about sexual performance or sexual orientation

o Sexual avoidance

o Engaging in unusual sex practices

Who can benefit from sex therapy?

A person can benefit from sex therapy if they have any sexual problems that are causing them distress, if they are dissatisfied with their sex life, if they want to learn about their sexual self, or if they have difficulty communicating their sexual needs and desires. Sexuality is such a dificult topic for most people to discuss openly. Most people who address sexual issues in therapy are glad that they did, because it can help them to function better in and out of the bedroom!

How Intercourse and Sexual Positions Influence Having a Girl Or Boy Baby

There was a time when natural gender selection was considered to be made up of old wives tales or based on superstition rather than science. This is changing today as clinical studies are showing definite identifiable characteristics between the different sperm chromosomes that produce different genders. Today, most people fully realize that using different sexual positions, timing your conception, and altering your PH can help determine whether you will conceive a boy or a girl. This article will discuss the role that sexual or intercourse positions play in this equation, as well as other things that can help you achieve success.

The X And Y Chromosomes Behave Very Differently:

The father-to-be’s sperm contains X and Y chromosomes in roughly equal numbers. This would seem to give you a 50 / 50 chance, but it’s important to understand that these chromosomes behave very differently. The Y or boy chromosomes are the Olympic sprinter of the gender selection world. They are incredibly fast, but can only go short distances before they begin to die off or weaken. This is made even worse if they are exposed to a hostile or acidic vaginal environment.

In contrast, the X or girl chromosomes are the long distance runners. They are slow, but steady and if they had a motto, it would be “slow an steady wins the race.” An acidic environment does not effect them nearly as much and their shelf life is much longer.

So, why I am telling you this trivia? Because knowing this and using a few methods to exploit these differences can mean the difference between conceiving a baby girl or a baby boy.

How Sexual Or Intercourse Positions Influence Whether You’ll Conceive A Girl Or A Boy Baby:

The idea behind using different sexual positions (depending on which gender you want) is that shallow and deep penetration will result in the sperm spending more or less time in the acidic or hostile vaginal / reproductive tract.

So, if you want a girl baby, you’re pulling for the X sperm and you know that it can easily survive a long trip. Shallow penetration will help you to achieve this. The standard missionary or woman dominant with knees bent can achieve this, but feel free to use what works best for you. The idea is to give the Y sperm the longest trip as possible with the most shallow penetration.

But, if you want a boy, you’re pulling for the Y sperm and you want to create a short, painless trip. This is achieved through deep penetration. Most people use rear entry positions or modified missionary positioning where the woman places her legs at the man’s shoulders to allow for deeper penetration. No matter which position you use, placing a pillow underneath your pelvis can help.

Things You Can Do In Addition To Intercourse Positions:

There are other issues to address if you want to get the highest odds for success. As an acidic or high PH vagina and reproductive tract will be very hard on Y sperm, you’ll need to alkalize your body if you’re trying for a boy. But, if you want a girl, you’ll want to ensure that your PH is as high as it can be.

Both of these are achieved by using PH diets and / or douching. You can make this process easier by using testing strips that you can get for a few bucks on line or in a health food store. This will tell you where you naturally fall and how many changes you will need to make until you hit your optimal reading. There are also food lists and douche recipes out there which can also help make this less time consuming.

Finally, timing your conception helps limit the time that the Y guys spend on the quest to the egg. By conceiving as close as possible to the time you ovulate, you ensure that they don’t need to wait around for the egg. Likewise, you’d want to conceive early in this window if you wanted a girl.

Of course, for the highest odds of success, you should incorporate all of these methods into a regular regimen. This is not as hard as it sounds. You’ll just need to pinpoint ovulation first, then test your PH, make the necessary adjustments and, once you’re ready, use the appropriate positions to conceive.

Women Men Love And Women Men Leave

So let me be blunt; which type of woman are you? A woman men love, or a woman men leave? I know it seems like a harsh question. Ultimately the answer does not matter, as in this article I want to teach you how to be the woman men love for the rest of your life.

What does your man need in the relationship? If you know the answer to this question, fantastic! if not that is okay. In encourage you to take some time to think about it.

What Does Your Man Need

You see, just like a man often needs (and very often struggles) to know what a woman needs in a relationship, believe it or not, a woman needs to know what a man needs in a relationship.

Once you know what your man needs in your relationship, then all you need to do is start giving it to him. It is simple as that.

Hold on, hold on! I hear you say. I am not going to become subservient to my man and give in to all his demands. Women did not fight for gender equality for years to just give in and let that happen…… Well no you are 100 percent correct.

In defense of men in this situation, no man wants their woman to be a push over. A real man wants his woman to have a mind and an opinion of her own, and to be able to stand up for herself. But underneath all of that, they just really want you to be their biggest fan.

You see what I mean is, you don’t have to give in to him at all, you just may want to give his ego a boost every once and a while!

But having said that, if you truly do love your man and the two of you are in a healthy relationship, then the you should be each others biggest fan anyway!

It’s More Than Just Sex

At this stage you might be thinking that to accomplish all of this, you must have sex with him whenever he wants it, and must give in to all his fantasies and desires.

To be honest if this is actually the case with your man, then I would encourage you to find a man with a little more depth. Men like that are truly only after sex and nothing else, and the relationship will not last.

Whilst sex is a very important part of any relationship, it is important to understand that it is not the be all and all of relationships.

Show Him He Is Special

So to sum up, the women men leave are generally the women who either do not make any effort to make their man feel special, on all levels…. Or try to and are not sincere. Believe me it shows through.

If you want to be the woman men love, then show him how much you love him. He should truly be special to you. Connect with him on emotional, spiritual and sexual levels, and he will stay loyal to you for ever.

As a woman you have a choice at the end of the day. You can be a woman men love or a woman men leave. It does not mean giving up on yourself and your values. It just means understanding your man a little better, and what it is he really wants and needs out of the relationship.